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Beware of Crazymakers!
We all want to be successful and share our lives with people that bring a better balance in our life right? Is that really the truth? We speak of these things, yet we don't see our own blocks or people who are directly blocking our achievements and chance for peace. Many of us live in denial and continue to live in a soiree of "Crazymakers", if you have them around you, then you essentially already know it. They are the ones who love drama. Everyone around them are supporting characters as they create a situation where once again they are the star in their own show. Everyone around them is triggered by their cues, their crazy comments, exits, entrances, temper tantrums, confusing dialogues, gossiping sessions and oddly destructive ways. These people are their own personal storm centers. They can take over your whole life and leave you feeling like, "what the hell just happened." They are amazingly creative victims that attack and then blame you!
The Crazymakers dynamic is all about power. Since they feed on power, any power source will do or like a parasite, feed on. Give them a jealous reason and you will see your Crazymaker lover go ape. They are the so-called good friend that says things to you like, "do you know what people are saying about you? right when you moved into a new neighborhood and felt excited." or how about comments that make you feel like a decision you just made that you now can't change, they let you know with conviction is the wrong one. Sometimes they appear as your truest, bluest friend, but often they can behave like overbearing mothers with their outlandish opinions and insults. What's crazy about the Crazymaker is that they have no idea that what they said is totally obnoxious or uncalled for. Truth is they don't care! They have a way making you feel like this is some weird form of love. They feel entitled to overstep all of your personal boundaries. There is no rationalizing with a Crazymaker because they are not open to understanding why their behavior makes people crazy.
The reason why you have to learn to identify these people in your life is so you can keep your stress levels down! Cortisol is a nasty thing and when you try to stay fit mentally and physically this is a huge key to success. You must surround yourself with positive energy and people who are kind at least 90% of the time. Sometimes the very thing you need to clean out is not always your gut or your home, but your God-awful relationships. They may be your stubborn spouse, your hot and cold lover, needy friend, manic boss or insane mother. They all share similar destructive characteristics that make them poisonous to your life & can defer you from achieving your goals.
All of them on some level will feel they deserve "special treatment". They are always in need of some form of attention. They can be very good at breaking their end of a deal and have a great way of disrupting your schedule. A typical Crazymaker would vent at the whole family and then act as if they are too exhausted to now drive so someone else needs to do it. They become ill when you expose them after they start the conflict. They can give it, but they can't take it and go wild when you call them out on anything! Victims of crazy makers are in a constant state of, how do I get rid of this person from my life or how do I get control over my life again! Yet, the Crazymaker can be charismatic and charming pulling your right back in to the spiders web. The most amazing thing about a Crazymaker is that they can actually make you feel you have a distorted reality. Crazymakers will always violate how you feel about a topic because they don't feel you have a right to feel that way. It's their way or the highway. They have no respect for boundaries, coming to understandings, or accepting and realizing how they made you feel. There is no such thing as shame or regret. It's a bit sociopathic, but this is how they breed drama. This falls into codependency, Love & Sex Addict definitions, as well. Until you either get out or get therapy to figure out this twisted fate you have with this person, you can out living in their shadow.
This can be a serious area of imbalance in our life. This can make us ugly and behave in ways that our coping mechanisms go haywire. The confusion alone will turn you into some form of crazy. To find balance and our own beauty again, we have to take a hard look at times in places we don't even want to go. There is this thing called love and "feelings" for other people that makes us magnetically drawn to the constant pull of their negative energy. People who fall into this have no perception of what a negative impact they have, they believe they are amazing and are amazing especially at setting people up against you. This is all about maintaining their position of power. How can you maintain your sense of power and balance in this situation? You are likely to crack and crumble no matter how much of a master of your feelings you think you are. It's hard to get out when the web is sticking to your feet! Your energy will be drained just trying to keep up with it all. When Crazymakers exist in your life they have a great way of blaming. It's never their fault. They escape it by twisting it into a guilt trip on you. Although they were never acting right to begin with they will never have a recollection of their wrongdoing or part in anything that doesn't make them the sane one. The point being is you will never be able to comprehend what is incomprehensible. You have to learn to call a spade a spade and know when someone's energy is sucking yours dry. If you want to contain energy you need to start honing in to where your energy zappers in your life are. You have to learn to find your center and walk the opposite way to get clear. Engaging in the madness makes you mad. Eventually, you will lose your own sense of self. Keeping our sense of self around others in this state of mind is important so that we don't lose sight of who we are, our own truth and stay firm with how we really feel. We have to disengage in order to handle the situation well if it approaches us once again. Until you shake the Crazymaker attachment that lives in you, you can count on attracting even more of these critters. You have to have a no tolerance and when you see it - shut the door right away and lock it out!
People will go to great lengths to remain blocked. We are guilty as this as well. The challenge in disengaging proves that we fight our own blocks. We are stuck in the situation as well because it's easier to stay and tolerate it, rather than change and create a new path. We don't want to see how crazy we can be by remaining in situations that do not respect our personal boundaries. Crazymakers only use us to feel and look sane. We will never be the star of their show. We will always live in frustration trying to make sense of a whimsical situation that is called "nonsense". If you are involved in a tortured tango with a Crazymaker or two, ask yourself a serious question, what is blocked in you that you are avoiding. Why do you need this drama in your life? How is this really serving you? By remaining in these situations we can see our own blocks clearly and inability to let go of them. The best advice is to stop reacting to the insanity just to prove a point, to win, be right or to explain your sanity in a situation. Once you do you can start living your life to the fullest with all the energy you have saved by not entertaining the Crazymaker.