Michelle Johnson is an Team BeautyFit® Athlete, IFBB Bikini Pro, ISSA Specialist in Performance Nutrition, and Fitness Trainer who is recognized as a national level fitness authority, figure model, speaker and writer.
Her innovative workout programs have been implemented into some of the nation's leading health and fitness organizations. Her articles have been published by many leading industry magazines. She is an industry speaker on topics including weight management, wellness and group fitness.
All of her online services are available worldwide and some are managed in person.
Why Does A Bird Sing? Facing Hard Facts With Acceptance
There are crossroads we arrive at in our lives and we wonder which way we are to go. Then there are situations you have encountered again and again and you know which way you should go, but do you often go there? And then there are the dreaded situations where someone creates your fate for you with the pull of a plug. So how do we really control our lives and create the realities we want? You can spend your days always believing the next best thing is around the corner. But the power of choice is powerful and it's here and now that matters. If someone created a fate you are now experiencing you can choose to accept that "it is what it is". You can spend your time angry and upset or you can choose to be productive with what you know and make the most of any given situation. The points we reach where we have to make a decision can be rattling because we know that one decision may lead to peace and another will create our worst nightmares. Some people are true warriors and will stand by their truth with courage and conviction. Others may bow out and move on never confronting anyone or anything in their lives. Whether one of these things is right or wrong does not matter. It is the point that each decision we make is like roulette. Even when you think you are walking down the aisle with the one, this does not mean a "happy marriage". It can mean, I thought I married the right guy and later learned he was a con artist. It can mean I took a job offering me a million a year only to find I was surrounded by snakes. You just don't know what your decisions are walking you into. It's always a game of "If the price is right?" What will actually be behind the next door you pick?
How many of us have sat back and looked behind us knowing we should of made a better choice? You want to beat yourself on the head and just say had I made a different choice and trusted my instincts I would not be where I am today. Some of us, like myself, have an insatiable need to put pearls on pigs at times. I would avoid a lot if I just stopped doing this alone.
Why do we keep putting are hand in the fire? Because we want to believe there is hope and love in every situation. We sometimes don’t want to be wrong. No one wants to face a bully and bow down. We want to stand up to the bully, pet him on the head and make him a nice bully so he doesn't kick the crap out of you, right? Maybe you are the type that will punch the bully in the nose and run and pray he doesn't catch you or you are the type that has dog whispering techniques with bullies and think you can get him to calm down. We all like to think we have control over what we manifest with people in this world, but many times we find that there is no way to change people. We have to accept that "they are what they are" and the situation "is what it is". So now what do we do? We always feel we have to have some control when it comes to our own destiny.
The funny thing is, I have thought this way most of my life. I have done a lot of doing in order to create my dreams. Would you be surprised to learn my dreams had nothing to do with being a writer, fitness professional or IFBB Pro. My dream was to marry at 18, have 10 kids and live in a house with a white picket fence. Of course, I would dress and look like Barbie and be married to Ken. I think I got closest to looking like Barbie when I stepped on stage to compete, but the rest was a wash. My life went in the polar opposite direction. This happened to me when I started a massage business, as well. I wanted to do healing therapeutic massage with aromatherapy and I wound up working with Pro athletes. Big Basketball players, Hockey players and Football players. I was doing hard-core sport massage and using medicated rubs to help them with their muscles vs. my lavender oils. I wound up hating my job because at the end of it I was so sore; I could barely recover for days. I always felt when it came to FATE that the joke was on me. I gave up controlling it a long time ago! I learned, for the most part, to just see what is going to come my way next and determine if I am going to jump on that bandwagon. I can also decide if it’s best to run the other way. I am getting so much better at running the other way these days and how I actually met my husband. I changed my choices from bad boys to a great man. I have to say this has been working for me. Some very quick decisions I made like to compete in NPC for figure in 8 weeks change the course of my entire career and gave me a new identity. I became empowered physically for the first time in my life. I had no plans to do that. I was having a crazy moment and said yes to something I was talked into having no idea what I got myself into. Ironically, look where I am today! Wow, thank God I did that one show. I now have become a national authority in this industry and have a team of competitors I am leading. It's been a wild ride, not easy, but one I am forever grateful for.
The choices we all struggle with are the ones that others make for us. We may lose a job unfairly or possibly find that our closest relative has stolen for us. Strange things happen and side swipe us. We get hit by curve balls, stones are thrown our way and at times a whole building of bricks crashes down on us. This is a real test of how resilient we are. We have to think quickly on our feet and make a shift whether we want to or not. We may not like it, but it happened. We may not want to face it, but it happened. We may feel cheated and we were. It's not always fair, but the universe is a funny thing. It will plant you right where you are meant to be. When those shifts happen something needs to shift for something new to come in. This may be magical thinking to some, but this is how I always think of it. I have been paying attention and I can tell you I have never really been let down. Eventually, I can look back at the trauma, the nightmare, the drama, the unfortunate situation and see why that needed to go. I can see what I have now was a result and for that I am thankful for that crisis in my life.
In yoga, I talk a lot about not holding on to the tension and making more resistance where there is already some resistance. Instead, soften and become more like liquid. We have to become more liquid to face life's adversities. The problem is our egos get tangled up. What happened hurt us so deeply. We are angry that someone took something away from us. We feel betrayed and duped. All these feelings come up. It's your mastery over these feelings that is so important. The way to master everything in your life is through gratitude. Gratitude for where you are today because you have arrived because of choices you made and others. For many, life has dealt them what they perceive as a "rough hand." But, believing you have been dealt a "rough hand" is a mindset. It's not reality. You can always drop the cards and pick up a new deck.
You may wonder if there is any way to master your response to your personal outcomes. I want you to know YES! YES! YES! Again, it's through gratitude and acceptance. We have to accept it all, as it is and work from there listening to what our instincts tell us. Maybe at times they will be skewed about by our egos, but if we can eliminate the ego we will find our way. When the ego is gone there is nothing to lose, nothing to gain and there is nothing to take away. Release yourself from wondering why? Stop over processing things. Allow some things to be what they are. “It is what it is”, “they are what they are”, “a spade is a spade” and just accept that every moment is as it should be.
Release yourself from the syndrome of attachments to people, places and things. When you do new horizons await you. And just know you will never fully understand the purpose of everything…nor do the birds know why they must sing. They just do.